A journey to spiritual purity and choosing myself
I’ve been struggling to tell this story for a couple of weeks now. I realized If I said that, then it would make it easy for me write this. I have been on this journey for 3 years now and it has been rewarding in every way possible. The truth is sex is deeper than just physical and even deeper than most people want to admit. It’s an intimate experience that is meant to be shared by two people are who ready to be joined that way. When you say yes to sex, you are automatically saying yes to everything that the other person comes with spiritually, emotionally and physically.
This activity was created to join two people in becoming ONE, it is a spiritual act more than it is physical. This is how attachments are formed and soul ties are created – people who are connected emotionally & physically. This story begins with sex, but it is way complex than that. There’s so much clarity and discernment that happens when you practice waiting. Must I also add that this is a personal choice and a personal journey that you must embark on for yourself.
Celibacy has helped me unlock the power of patience, self-value and self-discovery which permeated in every other area of my life. This practice has also allowed me to be more disciplined, international and more specific about what I want. It was like I could breathe in a different way; I saw myself for who I am, and that perspective shift has helped enlighten me in ways unimaginable.
This kind of purity also helps God reveal things you could have missed; it has allowed me to become more aligned with the purpose and the vision that God has for my life. It gave me a different perspective and revealed so much about myself in a life changing way. This decision was more about choosing myself and finally putting myself in a position where I’ll be happy with the results. Whether in relationships, or at work and in my home.
It’s like everything else in life, whether you choose to wait or not, you need to work on yourself before allowing anyone to become a part of you that way. There’s a journey you need to walk alone – without your parents or your friends and I don’t know what that means for you but I know that you need to discover it and once you do, you’ll be glad you searched for it in the first place.
This doesn’t make me anti-sex; I love sex just like the next girl and walking this path has not been easy. I’m not a virgin which makes this even harder because I’ve lived on the other side. But it is worth preserving my integrity. And if somebody doesn’t see my worthy enough to wait then it’s a process of elimination and that means I’m getting closer to what God has planned for me. Anybody who doesn’t value me, doesn’t see that I am the prize.
Sex has kind of defined what a relationship is supposed to be. In a worldly perspective, it has become an important part in a relationship. We live in a society where messages that opposes this are not celebrated or even told enough. Most of the time good sex gets in the way of clarity. You start being okay with things you wouldn’t be okay with long term because you are physically dependent on this person, it gets messy.
I know there are many people who will say that celibacy is not a proven act for successful marriage, maybe that’s right. But a successful marriage as a Christian is based on God’s standard of love. In the end I have lived on the other side and God challenged me to do something different that has unlocked certain areas of my life in an incredible way.
God created us, he gave us the desires to want what we want, and he also knows when it should come into the world and when people will be able to receive it. I’ve never been married before so I’m not saying delaying sex is a guarantee for an easy union, relationships are not a walk in the park either. But this is more about you than it is about anyone else.
This is not about finding a perfect partner, it is more about you embarking on a journey of self-discovery. It is about you figuring things out for yourself, getting healing and working on being a healthy and happy individual. It is about seeking a whole life and committing to doing all the things that give you a sense of completeness. It’s about your relationship with Christ and being clear on the vision He has for you. It’s also about you understanding your value and worth outside of a person. It is about you!
“real love does not make you disobey your creator”